Hello Friends! Happy Sunday! Here's a little something to think about today...
As many of you saw in the picture I posted yesterday, Mike and I went to a Real Salt Lake Soccer game last night. It was a beautiful, warm spring night. We chanted and cheered and booed with the crowd and even though they lost, we had a great time. But here's the thing.... Mike doesn't really like soccer. There were probably 20 different things he would've rather done than go to that game. So whydid he? Because he knew I wanted to, and he knew it would make me happy. Yesterday morning, he had been online checking out things to do that night. He is a musician, and really wanted to go hear some live music. He is also a huge sports fan (soccer, not so much) so he was checking the hockey games, baseball games, and concerts that were going on last night. Imagine my surprise when he informed me that he had gotten soccer tickets. Why? Because sometimes we make sacrifices for people we love.
Relationships take work. They take time and effort and SACRIFICE. When you have children, you often sacrifice sleep, peace and quiet, or free time. When my children were young, I rarely had time to myself, and when I did, I worried about the kids. I ate foods I didn't really like because it was what THEY liked. I didn't have much time to do things I wanted and my days were filled with Disney movies, chicken nuggets, and constantly cleaning house, doing laundry, and changing diapers. But I didn't mind, because I loved them and was willing to do whatever I needed to help them. It goes the same with spouses. We sit through movies we don't love, watch hours of sporting events we don't really care about, or participate in activities because THEY like them. I've come to learn through the years, that it is my attitude that makes all the difference. If I do it because I know it will make him happy and not be thinking about the things I would rather be doing, I enjoy it much more. I love to surprise him with something special just to see his reaction. Please know that I don't mean we have to do EVERYTHING together, or that it's not good to have hobbies. I love me some Dancing with the Stars and don't care in the least that Mike would rather watch something (anything!) else. We have individual likes and hobbies, too. That's what makes life interesting.
Try to take some time to find something that your friend, child, or spouse enjoys (even if you don't) and enjoy watching THEM enjoy it. That's where the true happiness comes in. Love to you all.